Relationships require work and self awareness that couples therapy can help improve.
A person’s early childhood relationships form templates in our minds of expectations of how we interact with others as well as how we expect others to interact with ourselves in present and future. People maintain these mental templates of relationships that correspond to interactional behavioral patterns, which are defined as how someone feels, thinks, as well as interacts with people, their world, and environment. If a person has unhealthy interactional patterns, they will continue in the present and future until one is able to gain awareness into these maladaptive patterns and experiment in treatment with healthier ways of thinking, behaving, and relating.
In relationships, these patterns become more complex when considering the other persons ways of relating. Because of this complexity, it is important to have a licensed psychologist trained in interpersonal, relational, systems, and psychodynamic psychotherapy approaches to guide you in identifying these unhealthy patterns and learning more satisfying healthier ways of relating that aid in having your needs met in the relationship.
Communication is a key component to healthy relationships. Couples therapy can help the couple learn healthier ways of identifying and describing thoughts and feelings in order to build a more satisfying relationship. Also, individuals may cope in an unhelpful manner in relationships by avoiding the expression of thoughts and feelings. Avoidance of communicating all together can leads to unhappiness in relationships and not having ones needs met by the other person. Couples therapy aids in the process of opening up communication and building a deeper connection to feel comfortable to communicate.
Trust is essential to healthy relationships and when that trust is broken, it can be damaging to the relationship, unless the trust is worked on and repaired. Having a psychologist trained to assist you in building back that trust can be beneficial to maintaining the relationship as people find that often avoidance leads to maintaining mistrust and unhappiness in relationships.
Here are some questions to consider:
- Do you find that you continue to date the same type of person in which you continue to feel disappointed and hurt?
- Are you mistrustful of people?
- Do you have difficulty communicating with people?
- Are you avoidant of others?
- Do you feel stuck in your relationship?
- Feeling disconnected from people?
- Struggling with communicating your true thoughts and feelings effectively to others?
- Do you feel that people walk all over you and that you have difficulty saying, “No” to people?
- Ever feel like you have to go to extremes to get the attention of people?
- Feeling isolated and alone and wanting to feel more connected to people?
- Ready to learn how to build more meaningful, healthy, satisfying relationships with people?
If you or a loved one wants to improve your relationship and learn healthier more rewarding ways to communicate and relate feel free to call Dr. Watson to set up an appointment.